Archive for October, 2010

We’re going away tomorrow for our first family holiday so today I thought I should probably think about packing a few things. It’s very unusual for me to be so unorganised, I used to get packed and ready to go 2 weeks before we travelled and then repack a couple of days before leaving.


Anyway J likes to help and to have jobs to do so I asked if he wanted to help, plus I thought it would be good for him to decide and pack some of his things, (all part of helping him to prepare for our few days away).  He was eager to help and quickly decided that he needed to pack his skanky (yes it is) blankie and his special doggy but he needed them for now so he would pack them in the morning and maybe have them in the car :) Whilst on the subject of toys I opened his small case and told him that we could fill it with toys and asked him what he would like to take with us.  He packed a few books, some blocks, some fidget toys and one of his sensory toys.


So far so good, next clothes…… He informed me that he just wanted to take swimming clothes because he was going to swim in the pool, go to the beach and go to Seaworld! A very long conversation later, me explaining that maybe we should take some other clothes too just in case we go somewhere else, he finally agreed to pack his favourite shirt, a tshirt and 2 other pairs of shorts exclaiming “Oh if you want me to pack it, just pack it but I might not wear it!”


mmmmmm not doing quite so well now. Then I asked him if there was anything else that he would like to take with us. He replied with “Well I need my blanket, my quilt and my pillow but we can’t pack them until the morning because I need them tonight when I go to bed and of course I need to pack my bed too!”  LOL :)  Cue conversation about how the apartment we are staying in has beds……….. J responds with “yes but my bed is better!”


I’m thinking we may not get too much sleep whilst we’re away, (what’s new?!?!)

Maybe I shouldn’t have asked him to help :)

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I’ve been writing this post for almost 2 weeks, I wanted to make sure it was right. Over the past month I received a few emails and had a few telephone conversations regarding J and the parenting skills of hubby and myself.  These were negative comments made by others, some people who “care” about us. Comments like, “we’re letting J be naughty”, “we let him get away with things” , “We’re giving in to his tantrums and so teaching him that if he has a tantrum he can get his own way”, “there’s nothing wrong with him, it’s just us”, “He’ll be fine, we should just be stricter” and so on…….. you get the picture.

These comments have had a negative effect and for the last couple of weeks I’ve started doubting our parenting skills, questioning everything I do and just generally feeling like a bad mum who can do no right. So big thanks to all those people!

It’s to those people and any others that would like to or need to understand a little more about J and Aspergers that I write this.

J has a hidden disability.  J has Asperger’s Syndrome (AS) which is an Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD).

This means -

J is a literal thinker, he doesn’t understand metaphors, sarcasm etc, see my post But You Said for some examples of this. J doesn’t understand social cues and most facial expressions. He doesn’t wait for someone to finish speaking, he doesn’t think twice about interrupting a conversation, if he has something to say he’ll say it and he HAS to be listened to because he won’t stop and will get louder until he is listened to. Sometimes he shouts, screams and even growls at people, just because. He can talk for hours about his computer games or Power Rangers and doesn’t understand that some people aren’t interested or are bored and fed up with hearing the same things over and over again. He doesn’t understand that sometimes he has to listen as well as talk.

He’s not being rude or attention seeking, he just doesn’t understand the unwritten social “rules” that we all take for granted.

Because of his lack of social skills, J doesn’t really have any friends, his “friends tend to be adult friends of mine or his Dad or they are much younger or older than himself, like H, (2 years) and S, (11 years). He did sort of make a friend at playgroup but didn’t understand that his friend also had other friends and didn’t always want to play his game with him and actually got quite sad about it, saying things like “*Jack* doesn’t want to play with me anymore he just plays with other kids,”  this was simply due to his lack of social skills and understanding.

J obsesses over things, at the moment it’s his computer games and Power Rangers, not only does he talk about them constantly  , he also “acts” like characters from them, reads the instruction book several times a day, (it’s his favourite “book” at the moment) and no matter what he playing with, it becomes his game complete with stages, bases, lands, levels and of course “baddies”.

J needs routine, he doesn’t cope with change. This isn’t just changes to his daily routine, it’s the way things are done, the route we take home, the order in which we do things, the way things work, if we do something in a different place and so on. For example if  we set his alarm clock before he’s had a quick drink from his water bottle we have to start the bedtime routine all over again, he changed rooms at playgroup just for a short while during one of his sessions but this caused him so many anxieties that a few months later he still checks and worries that he will be in a different room, (although he has now just finished attending playgroup), when we went to a prep open day he refused to go to what could be his new classroom because to him that wasn’t his classroom and Miss S and Miss C weren’t in there.


J has various sensory issues. He doesn’t like certain sounds, he can also make strange sounds at times. He has perfect hearing and yet sometimes doesn’t “hear” what is said to him because he has difficulty processing what has been said and organising all the sounds that he is hearing, something that most of us just do without thinking about it. At times it can seem like he is ignoring you, (and I’m sure at times he is, afterall he is a child), but the majority of the time he’s just having difficulty processing what has been said. He can get easily distracted by background noise too, a fridge humming can seem very loud to him, although we probably wouldn’t even notice it’s sound, so you can imagine how hard it can be for him at times to “hear” everything and process everything that he is hearing.

He also has “super sight”, he sees things that others don’t and can get extremely upset with you when you don’t see what he is pointing out to you. Bright lights can also have an effect on J, he often says they are hurting him.


J is also sensitive to certain smells and tastes and is extremely sensitive to touch. He smells everything and is extremely sensitive to a few smells that he doesn’t like.  He has a very limited diet, eating mostly white, very bland tasting foods. He hasn’t developed fully orally, by this I don’t mean that he has difficulty speaking, he’s extremely verbal, in fact he uses words that alot of 10 year olds wouldn’t use let alone 4 year olds. What this does mean is, he bites and chews himself, others, toys, clothes, etc…. He also licks his lips and gets a very sore mouth as a result of that. He overfills his mouth quite often because he simply doesn’t realise how much he in his mouth until he has too much in there.  As for touch, well J likes to touch everything, (usually when he’s smelling things), providing it’s not “dirty” of course. He HATES getting messy and in particular having dirty hands. He doesn’t like to be touched by others, for example if someone brushes past you in a busy shop you might barely notice it, however J will insist that someone has hurt him on purpose and will shout and scream. He doesn’t like anything to touch his head, so you can imagine how much fun haircuts are! He also has issues with clothes, at times he doesn’t like the colour or the way the material feels against his body, other times he insists that a tag or a seam is hurting him.

J also has difficulty with proprioception, (this is the sense that indicates whether the body is moving with required effort, as well as where the various parts of the body are located in relation to each other) and vestibular (The vestibular system in the brain allows us to stand upright, maintain balance and move through space.  It coordinates information from the vestibular organs in the inner ear, the eyes, muscles and joints, fingertips and palms of the hands, pressors on the soles of the feet, jaw, and gravity receptors on the skin and adjusts heart rate and blood pressure, muscle tone, limb position, immune responses and balance).  All of this means that he has difficulty staying still, in fact the only time he sits still is when he’s playing on his computer games but even then at times he has to be moving. He has an unusual bounce, he likes bouncing and jumping, it helps his body awareness. He doesn’t have great co-ordination,  he has a poor pencil grip, (he tends to grab rather than hold a pencil), he has difficulty using cutlery, (well he rarely uses it, preferring finger foods), he has difficulty pedalling a bike, using a scooter etc. He has almost no sense of danger, (although does have some fears), he climbs on everything so that he can jump off it, (he says that he’s base jumping!!). He has a high pain threshold, when he broke his collar bone earlier this year we had to wait 4 hours to be seen in A & E because he wasn’t screaming so it obviously wasn’t that bad! We quite often find a new bump or bruise, (he quite accident prone), that he hasn’t realised has happened until we discover it. We’ve been working on this with him, trying to explain to him that even if he hurts himself the tiniest bit he must tell someone, of course he’s now telling us everytime he gets the tiniest scratch, we can’t seem to find a happy medium.

J isn’t a good sleeper, he plays the usual games that most children play at bedtime, not wanting to go to bed, coming out with excuses etc, bedtime can take over an hour.Despite the warm temperature he insists on having his fleece blanket and his quilt on him and it must be over his collar bone. Once he is all tucked up fast asleep, he very rarely stays asleep, often waking 2-3 times a night and is a very early riser, he gets up most mornings between 5.30am and 6.30am.

Of course all of the above creates anxieties within J and leads to meltdowns. Please take note, Meltdowns are not Tantrums. When a child has a tantrum it’s usually because he/she isn’t getting their own way or what they want, J has tantrums just like every other child, however when J has a meltdown it’s usually due to his anxieties or his sensory issues. When J has a meltdown anything can happen. He hurts himself and others, he bites, hits, kicks, screams, shouts, scratches, pinches, opens and slams doors, throws things, smashes things……. the works. He seems to develop some kind of super strength when a meltdown occurs. J has difficulty regulating his emotions. Once a meltdown has started there is nothing we can do, we just have to try to make sure we protect him, (and ourselves) from getting hurt and simply wait until it’s over. Meltdowns can last anything from 10 minutes to the whole day. Meltdowns can occur because of almost anything and often occur without warning.

Of course these are just some of the difficulties encountered by J and ourselves, however there are also lots of positives, something we try to focus on and work with.

For example,

J is incredibly smart. At 4 he has just started recognising and reading certain written words, he can count to over 100, he can add and subtract, he knows all of his shapes and even knows the difference between a sphere, a cylinder and a circle. He knows so many facts about the human body, various animals etc you just wouldn’t believe. He can operate any computer games console and is a whizz on my desktop.

He has a great memory – he knows everything there is to know about his computer games, Power Rangers and some animals.

He has an amazing connection with animals, he loves them. He isn’t bothered by their size and colour or if they’re dangerous, he talks to them, hugs them, feeds them and so on. It’s wonderful to watch him interacting with them at the Zoo.

He’s very loyal.

He knows what he wants, once he’s made his mind up about something he won’t change it.

He’s persistent.

He’s a great leader.

He has great attention for detail.

I could go on forever with his positive so I’ll stop there, I think this post is probably long enough already. If you’ve stuck with it and have read the whole post, I thankyou for taking the time to read it and hope that it helps to “explain” some of the difficulties that J encounters and some of the difficulties that we encounter as his parents.

We know that J is going to encounter all kinds of difficulties during his life and parenting a child with Aspergers isn’t going to be easy, but we’re doing our best. We’re learning to appreciate the tiniest accomplishment, (like getting dirty feet or using a shower), we’re learning to understand some of J’s triggers, we’re trying to help him to understand feelings and social skills, we’re trying to help him develop to his full potential, we’re trying to ease some of his anxieties, we’re trying to set a good example, afterall we are his most important and influential teachers.

Most importantly we love him for who he is and we’re proud of him and everything he does.

I found this great post on Dani G‘s blog, please click, visit and read it’s a great explanation of What is Autism.

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We were very excited in our house this week we’ve been asked to do our very first review.  J was very excited when we received a copy of Handy Manny: A Very Handy Christmas in the post to review.

Join Handy Manny and his tools in these heartwarming Christmas stories where they learn that helping others is the true meaning of the Christmas.
First, Manny and the tools help solve a series of emergencies around town that keep them from attending Kelly’s Christmas party. They learn that helping others is the best way to spend Christmas.
Then, Mr. Lopart gets involved with helping the town prepare for New Year’s Eve resulting in several accidents that require Manny and the tools’ help, but in the end he helps repair the broken New Year’s Eve ball.

Despite J only being 4 he has already outgrown characters such as Bob The Builder, Thomas The Tank Engine, Go Diego etc, insisting that they “are for babies!” However every day we start the day with Handy Manny, he has become a firm favourite in our house and for the 15-20 minutes that the show is on J is glued to the TV screen.

This Disney DVD is a great addition to any Disney or Handy Manny collection.  There are 2 Handy Manny episodes and 2 bonus My Friends Tigger and Pooh episodes. Each episode lasts for around 20 minutes so they’re just about right, not too long as to lose the child’s attention but long enough to provide great entertainment and value for money.

Both episodes have fun catchy tunes that you will be singing “forever”, (I’m still humming “holidays are so much fun”). What I like about this DVD is that it teaches it’s watchers about different Christmas stories, such as Hanukkah, a little Spanish and also teaches important things like teamwork and the importance of helping others.

As he usually is with Handy Manny, J was glued to the screen during both episodes and thoroughly enjoyed them, asking to watch them again when they had finished. However he wasn’t quite so keen on the My Friends Tigger and Pooh episodes and informed me that he thought they were “for babies”. I personally thought that all episodes were great and I could imagine most preschoolers, (and their parents) having a quiet hour or so watching this DVD.

Overall I think this DVD suits most little ones aged between 2 years and 5 years. With Christmas coming up this would make a great gift.

Handy Manny:A Very Handy Holiday will be available on DVD from November 3rd 2010.

Please stayed tuned for a great Christmas Giveaway!

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We’ve been using the new rules in our house for about a week now and we’ve had lots of ups and downs with them all week. Needless to say J isn’t enjoying having new rules, (another change to deal with), however he has been complying with them in his own way.

He helped me to choose different pictures for his visual aids, we now use a traffic light chart alongside a “privileges” chart, (these are things he wouldn’t want to lose if his behaviour resulted in a red light).

The books on his chart are the amount of bedtime stories he gets read by ME, (if he loses all of them he can still have A story but it will be read by Daddy, he prefers Mummy), the TV is his TV programmes and the computer games consoles are of course his computer games, (which are his obsession).  With the traffic light system if he goes to amber he gets a warning and then if he’s “good” for 30 minutes after his warning he can go back to green, however if we receive negative behaviour from him then he goes to red and then loses something from his chart.  This has been abit hit and miss but now that we’ve been using it for a week it’s starting to work. We had a tough few days at the beginning of the week, in fact on Tuesday by 10am he’d already lost everything except one story on his chart so then I started thinking “now what, he’s got nothing to lose” and began to doubt that the system would work but we’ve stuck with it and it’s starting to pay off. He has lost something everyday but for the past 2 days he’s only lost a couple of things. I don’t know if that’s because of the chart or if he’s simply been having a good couple of days, in any case well done little man, you’re doing great!

The other visual chart we are using is a daily schedule, this is so that he can see what’s coming up next and so hopefully ease some of his anxieties.


To say that he loves this chart would be an understatement! He helped me to choose the pictures for this chart and often looks at his chart to see what he has to do next. This one is working!!!

We keep both charts on the fridge so that he can see them easily.


As for the new rules, well J isn’t liking them, however he has opened the fridge door himself on a couple of occasions and he’s started to try a little harder at getting himself dressed. Getting dressed is something he struggles with and it’s something that we’re working on. WELL DONE J!

As for the new food rule, well J doesn’t like this rule but has complied with it…….. literally! On 2 occasions now his has overfilled his mouth and started to walk away from the table, I have reminded him that food has to stay at the table and so he’s spat everything out onto his plate and then gone off to play! LOL  When asked why he spat his food out he’s looked at me confused and replied ” you said food had to stay at the table” :)    Despite some arguments and some refusal to eat food has stayed at the table. However J has now been taking longer to eat everything and has eaten less, he has also at most mealtimes had a bite then gone off somewhere to play, come back to have another bite, gone to play and so on.  So over the next few weeks we may make small changes to this rule, such as getting a clock and giving him x amount of time to finish eating. Also he still isn’t sitting at the table very often, he prefers to stand or bounce, so we may make it a rule that when he’s eating he has to sit, we’re hoping to be provided with a special seat for him so he can move whilst he sits.

Overall so far so good, apart from a few bumps in the road our new rules and charts seem to be working.   So WELL DONE J, you’re doing great and Mummy and Daddy are very proud! x

On a slightly different note, I am continuing with my weightloss challenge and have made slight changes to my diet, I’m exercising regularly at least 3-4 times a week and generally feeling alot healthier.  I haven’t lost huge amounts of weight but I have lost another pound over the last 2 weeks. I know that’s not great but that’s a total of 7 lbs in 5 weeks which I think is pretty good and I’m trying to make changes to my lifestyle that I can continue once I’ve reached my goal. My goal is to feel healthier and to lose some weight, it’s not rapid weight loss so I’m very happy with myself.

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The theme for this week’s Gallery is the colour Red.

I thought about this one alot, there’s alot of red in the world to photograph but after looking through some old pictures this is what I came up with…………….

I guess we should have known that J was going to be challenging, he’s always had a temper but when we took these the eyes should have given it away! :)

Looking through all of our old pictures I discovered that about half of them showed J with RED eyes.

Then we made the mistake of putting him in this outfit………….

My Little Red Devil


Now please head over to Sticky Fingers to discover more Gallery posts, please remember to click and comment on as many other entries as you can. Right now I’m off to do just that :)

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For the past week I’ve not only been feeling rotten, (starting to feel better now) :)  but J’s behaviour seems to have gone into overdrive once again.

A couple of weeks ago we started going to a Playconnect group that meets locally, this is a group for parents with ASD children. The children and their siblings, (if they have any) play with different activities and toys set out for them whilst the parents, (just Mums at the moment) can chat about issues they going through with their children, help they’re accessing or whatever else comes to mind.  It’s a fantastic group, it’s great that the kids can just be themselves and as we are all parents of ASD children we all understand some of the issues that may occur and don’t feel, (at least I don’t) that the other mums are judging our parenting skills when they have a “moment”.

Anyway on Friday J had a few “moments” whilst we were at the group, then continued on the way home, calmed a little when he went to “school” (ECDP), but then started once again when I picked him up, even having an outburst in the playground.  These outbursts have continued since then, over the weekend we had a number of biting incidents, (he gave his Dad quite a nasty bite), lip licking, so making his mouth very sore, so much screaming, shouting, hitting and kicking etc that I lost count of how many incidents we actually had.

Monday I was attacked in the morning, he refused to eat at lunch and then we went to therapy.  He was pretty good during therapy, but then it ended and J decided that he NEEDED to play his own game. Of course this couldn’t happen because our time was up, cue mini meltdown………… He tried to attacked his 2 therapists, myself and then another therapist who came out to see what all the noise was about and then pushed all of the lovely receptionists files off the desk, (they went everywhere!). It was a nightmare, shouting, screaming, hitting, kicking etc etc.  Once home he spent about an hour on his computer game but then started again when I said “time for a break”, once again, hitting, screaming, kicking and even a little bit of an attempted bite. When our friend came around that evening J kicked him too, just because!

Yesterday he was supposed to be going to playgroup/daycare but that didn’t happen! By 8am I was pulling my hair our and ready to have a meltdown of my own!!!!!    He was awful, I was hit, pinched, shouted at, screamed at, kicked etc etc and that along with the constant disagreeing with everything I said, the constant whining about going to playgroup, and the refusal to get dressed just wore me down completely.

All of this was because he didn’t want to go to playgroup!!  So I gave in and let him stay with me, of course this meant taking him to the shop with me and **horror** the post office. Shop and post office = meltdowns!! and OMG they were good ones!!!


We started our new rules at the weekend and part of our new rule system is a traffic light board that I made and a visual board with his favourite things on. Basically he starts everyday on green and with all his favourite things and each time he has a “moment” or a “silly” as we call them at home he goes to amber and then red, when he goes to red he loses one of his favourite things, e.g computer games, for the rest of the day. Well I guess I don’t need to tell you that he’s been losing lots of his favourite things!  Yesterday was the worst and by 10am he had lost all of his things and only had his bedtime story read by me left on his chart, (something that we don’t really want to take away because we already have issues at bedtime and a story is part of his routine).  So when I took the last thing off his chart I was then “S**t now what, he’s been this bad already, now he doesn’t really have anything to lose!”  So I did the only thing I could think of, I put him back to green and told him next he would go to amber, then red and he would lose a bedtime story read by Mummy, it’s all in the wording, this way he could still have a story but Daddy would read it, (J prefers Mummy to read his bedtime story). I also told him that if he was on amber and was good for 30 minutes he could go back to green. Needless to say the rest of the day continued with him going from green to amber to green and then amber again.

We’re wondering if some of the negative behaviour is due to us trying to fit too much into his life at the moment, he’s now having therapy, daycare, swimming lessons,school, playconnect group, and of course the new rules, maybe it’s just all too much for him. It’s all meant alot of change for him and he doesn’t cope with change well and it also means we have a very busy week, maybe he’s getting tired, behaviour is always worse when tired and of course he doesn’t sleep brilliantly either.  We  discussed what we could maybe cut down on and J’s only input was “I don’t want to go playschool”, screamed at us of course, several times.

So we’ve given in, we’ve given notice to his playgroup and next week will be his last day there, (I have one more day of freedom!), J is VERY happy with our decision but even this hasn’t improved the behaviour much.  Although he’s seems calmer so far this morning.

Ideas anyone?  Are we trying to do too much? He’ll be starting prep in January, he’ll be doing 3 days a week mainstream and 2 days at the early intervention centre, (another change to deal with), so his week will become even busier then. We’ll probably end the swimming lessons for a while then but therapy will still be happening and when prep starts he’s going to have to cope, of course that means that we’re also going to have to cope with the effect it will have on him too.

Anyone got any ideas?  HELP! :)

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I’ve been feeling pretty rotten the past few days, I could a cold towards the end of last week and I spent the weekend feeling awful, (sympathy please) ;)  My nose is so blocked that my face feels like it’s exploding, I’ve had a temperature and felt like I was boiling up one minute and exiting a freezer the next, my throat feels like someone has decided to start decorating my insides and has started by rubbing it with sandpaper and then they moved on to my chest, (I’m asthmatic so when my chest starts hurting it’s never a good thing), my ears keep popping and my head feels like Metallica are playing a sold out concert inside it! :(

Anyway with the power of Panadol I have survived once again and this weekend I decided to sit down and I made some new creations. I did this because if I was concentrating on making something I wouldn’t fall asleep on the sofa and then end up with a neck ache to go with everything else and I also find jewellery making quite relaxing and usually feel quite proud of myself when I’ve finished each creation.

Here’s a few of my new creations :)

2 Bag Charms


A Bookmark


2 Bracelets


A Necklace


Another Bagcharm


Another Necklace


Another Bracelet


I’m considering trying to sell some so your feedback is welcomed, please comment and tell me what you think :)

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I had my first behaviour “therapy” session yesterday. I spoke with the therapist about some of J’s behaviour issues and we discussed some different ways in which we could take back some of the control in our household, because at the moment J rules our house, (not bad for a 4 year old eh?).

I have to admit it was hard listening to myself and someone else explaining just how much he rules and how we tend to go along with his rules.  We will be trying the new “rules” that I discussed with her, they’re only small changes but I’m sure it’s going to be a rough ride. One of the reasons we tend to just go along with J’s rules is because the meltdowns have been getting worse, the aggression has also been getting worse, the “quirks” have been getting worse and he’s been sleeping less, we all so exhausted we can’t cope with outbursts that could simply be avoided just by going along with J’s rules.  However I can also see that by going along with his rules we are also giving him more control over us and in some kind of way encouraging some of his “quirks”.

Some New Rules:

Food must stay on the table.  Anyone that has read my post Can’t You Eat Properly? will know that we have alot of food issues. J doesn’t sit at the table, has a very limited diet and makes a huge mess…………. and so on. The new rule is he doesn’t have to sit at the table, (at the moment anyway), but food stays at the table, so if he’s eating although he may not be sitting at the table, he’s still eating at the table.

If he wants something out of the fridge he has to get it. Alot of you may know from reading my blog that J has alot of messy issues, in particular he HATES getting dirty hands, he won’t touch the fridge door handle, cupboard door handles etc etc. So if he wants something out the fridge he has to get it even if that means using his foot, body, whatever to open the fridge.

If he wants to get changed because he’s “dirty” that’s ok but he has to get himself dressed. mmmmmmmmmm this one’s going to be fun, he struggles with dressing himself but I suppose we’ll deal with the outbursts, (they can be pretty bad when it’s because he’s frustrated due to not being able to do something) and we’ll keep practising him getting himself dressed afterall he’s got to do it one day………….

We’re also going to start using visual aids. I’ve read alot about these on other blogs and with some children they have worked whilst with others didn’t really help at all so I guess it’ll just be “try it and see”.

I’ve been given the name of a website that has free downloads for visual aids to print and use, visualaidsforlearning

As for his biting, I’ve been looking for something to give him to chew, (rather than himself or me!), and stumbled upon a website that not only sells toys for chewing but a whole range of specialist toys, books and equipment and you can pay via paypal so works for me. special needs toys It’s an Australian site and I haven’t checked if they post overseas but if you’re in Oz and you’re looking for something for your special needs child, (they don’t just cater for ASD children), please check it out. I’ve bought J a couple of chewable necklaces, they were sent out fairly quickly and delivered by registered post, J loves them so all very happy and I may have another “shopping trip” soon :)


I don’t know how he’s feeling about the new rules because he’s been quite aggressive today, mostly towards me but also towards a couple of other children but we knew things could get worse before they get better so we’re ready for whatever he throws at us (literally, he threw a very large wooden block at me this morning – not good) :(  On the positive side he has complied with the food rule today so we’ll just see how we go.

Wish us luck :)


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This week for The Gallery Tara at Sticky Fingers has made the theme Your favourite photo and why.  But that’s not all this week there are prizes on offer for the best photo and story, to be judged by Spudballoo.  The prizes are pieces of art courtesy of Art Under A Monkey

So after searching through about a million pictures, (ok maybe not quite that many, but close), I finally decided on this

So I realise that I didn’t actually take this photo but I played a huge, (and I mean huge I was bigger than a whale!), part in it. I chose this picture as my favourite photo because this is when my life changed. We’d had the usual scans and lots of extra checkups, (J was my 5th pregnancy and I’d had a few problems) but nothing could compare with how I felt when we saw him looking at us. I was completely blown away by the pictures, to be able to see his eyes, nose, mouth and everything else was just amazing. I was convinced he would be a girl and even had a name chosen so when we were told we were having a boy obviously plans had to be rethought. I still find it amazing that I can look at this picture now and still see that it’s J, he hasn’t changed much, (in fact a friend of mine has said that it’s unbelievable how much he still looks like he did in his baby pics).

Anyway, this was the day it all became real, we were finally going to be a Mummy and a Daddy.  The beginning of the rest of our life!


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For any of you that haven’t see on the news the weather has been pretty miserable in SE Queensland for the past week and yesterday it was particularly bad. The roads around us are flooded and it just seems to have rained constantly, (mmmmm what happened to this being the sunshine state?).

This was the view from our back yard, I’ve never seen the sky look so black.


Anyway today was playgroup day and started as it usually does with “I don’t want to go playschool”, J had a whingefest this morning, there were problems with breakfast, with the clothes he wore, with his cartoon, with his shoes and of course the weather. He came out with various reasons why he couldn’t go to playschool and so I put him in the car and off we went. Of course because of road closures due to flooding our 5 minute journey took 20 minutes!

After dropping him off I had a meeting at one of the local Tafes, (college), I’m trying to get my qualifications assessed so that once J is settled in Prep I can look for some part time work.  Again due to the weather this was another journey that took longer than usual and the meeting also took longer than planned but hopefully the outcome will be successful, it’ll take a few weeks and I have to do a first aid course but fingers crossed that will be all the study I have to do.

When I dropped J off I told him I would pick him up early, however when I came out of the meeting I decided I needed some me time. Now I know the weather wasn’t great but I went for a long walk along the beach front………………ok so I wasn’t brave enough to walk along the path near the water, I didn’t mind getting abit wet but didn’t want to be drenched, afterall I still had to drive home.  I did however walk along the higher path just far enough away from the water.

This is what I saw…………

Despite the weather I had a great time, I got to clear my head, have some quiet time, saw some beautiful views got some exercise and was finally able to relax and unwind. I’m going to take myself for a wonder somewhere next week whilst J is at playschool too, it was just what I needed and who knows maybe the sun will come back next week too :)


Of course when I picked J up he told me several times on the way home that I had been late picking him up and h has now said “Oh so is that why you were late picking me up?” several times. We’ve also had lots of screaming and shouting, hitting and kicking and he has tried to bite me, (I managed to prevent a very nasty bite – just!).


So I guess it’s not just stormy outside and we just have to get through the storm……………….

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