It’s been a while yet again since I posted last. We’ve been trying to deal with our “situation” at the minute.
Our “situation” is this…………We are still waiting for Hubby to see a specialist regarding his back, in fact we are still waiting for an appointment. Seriously, I cannot believe just how slow the NHS is. Until he has seen the specialist and gotten some answers we’re stuck in limbo. We need to know if they are going to do anything to fix the problem at all or if there is nothing they will do. Either way once we get some answers we can move on with our lives, make plans etc……..
Our housing situation hasn’t changed and we’ve had no luck finding another house to rent, so again we’re stuck.
However our biggest source of stress has without a doubt been school issues! It’s just been one problem after another and has now gotten so bad that there is almost no communication between us and them. That said at the moment I think no communication between us and them would be better than what we have right now. 2 weeks ago they ambushed us, they tried tricking us into coming to “parents evening” during school time and with the Head attending too……………..I know alarm bells were ringing in our heads too! Turns out we were right to query the “parents evening”, it turned out to be a complete ambush. The Head and J’s Teacher were waiting to question us and at times (it felt like) attack us. We had an ESCO meeting booked for this week, (which has now taken place) and so we weren’t willing at that time to go through all of their issues right then So told them that we would discuss things with our support worker and then everything could be discussed at the ESCO meeting, as it supposed to happen. They wouldn’t accept that and continued with their “discussion” until time ran out for them.
During the ambush we asked if the school would be applying for a statement yet. This was brought up again in the ESCO meeting. We were told that there was no point applying yet because school don’t see his need for support yet, they say he isn’t displaying any of the anxiety or behaviour that we see at home, at school.
We asked if J would have an IEP whilst at the ambush, suddenly at the ESCO meeting they pulled out a piece of paper that they claimed was his IEP. It wasn’t an IEP it was a piece of paper so that they could claim at an official meeting that it had been done. After raising the point that we’d had no input at all with it we were told to arrange a meeting to discuss what they had decided. We had our proper Parent’s Evening last night, please don’t even get me started on that or how rude his teacher is. We were told during parent’s evening that we had to meet after school to discuss the IEP that they had done (seriously not worth the paper it’s written on), and we were to bring J to the meeting too. WTF!! No we’ve asked for a proper IEP meeting ‘cus we’re getting more than a little frustrated with the school’s bullying antics. Anyway after talking with our support worker and discussing things together we’ve decided to tell the school to do whatever the hell they want, there isn’t much point having another meeting to allow them to try to bully us again, when they’re going to do whatever it is they want to do anyway.
J’s current teacher is arrogant, ignorant, rude and makes it very obvious that she just doesn’t like us. Quite frankly I don’t care whether she likes us or not, ‘cus to be honest I can’t stand the woman but how she feels about us should not impact on how J is treated in school. Everything we say, Every concern we bring up, Everytime J opens up and tells us something which we pass on simply gets ignored, brushed under the carpet and forgotten. It’s about time they started dealing with some of the issues.
As I’ve said before we have some concerns that J is being bullied. The latest injury that he came home from school with was marks and bruises up his back because (as he told us) someone punched him lots of times. The school’s response was “it’s normal for 6 yr olds”…………. This week he gave us a name which we passed on during the ESCO meeting, school’s response wasn’t we’ll keep an eye on it, oh no, we were told “if you knew **** you would know he wasn’t capable of hurting anyone”……….Really well guess what, J doesn’t lie and him giving us a name was a big deal so maybe they should keep that in mind and actually keep an eye on the situation to see if the child in question is bullying him before J decides he will take no more and hits back!
We’ve got so many issues going on with school at the moment, it’s crazy and our frustration levels are at an all time high. So right now no communication would probably be better than what we have now because I’m not sure how much more we can put up with until we have a complete breakdown with them.
Right now we need some answers from the specialists regarding hubby’s back. Once we get those answers we’ve got a plan, we know what we’re going to do. Until we get those answers we’re stuck no knowing what to do for the best, we’re stuck living in a place where we don’t want to be, we’re stuck with the red tape that this country uses for everything, we’re stuck with the frustration and our poor boy is stuck in an education system that refuses to recognise his needs and support him.
Ok I’m going to sign off now, I’ve got so much to write about but I’m feeling so frustrated right now so I’d best stop now. Sorry for “going on”, if you’ve got to the end of this post, thanks for sticking with it. I’ll try to be abit more upbeat in my next post.