Friendship, it’s a powerful word isn’t it? It means different things to different people and of course people (including myself) have different types of friends. To me a friendship is a bond…….. it’s there to support and care without judgement, ok so you can’t agree on every single little thing but you respect and care about each other enough to understand that and move on.
Over the years, (I know I’m making myself sound old now right?), I’ve come to realise and understand that all friendships change over time, some for the better, some unfortunately take a turn for the worse. Moving to the other side of the world will test a friendship or two!
I met my best friend, SS, whilst at college, something just clicked with us right from the start and we’ve been friends ever since. SS is one of the most beautiful friends anyone could have. She’s the friend that I’d go to if I needed help, the one that I can always rely on, always there to offer support or even just a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on and when J was christened, the one who became J’s Godmother. I know that no matter what happens in life SS and I (and J) will always have each other to turn to………… SS if you’re reading this, we love you and are so lucky to have you in our lives x
When we first moved from the UK to Australia we found upon our return to the UK that we had lost a few friendships and since moving back to Australia early last year we’ve lost a few more. It’s hard work maintaining some friendships when you’re on the opposite sides of the world, it takes abit of effort on both parts and unfortunately sometimes that little bit of effort is a little more hard work than you’d thought it would be. It’s sad to think about but slowly over time these friendships that you’d once thought of as good friendships start to become “old friends”, that’s just life and the way it goes sometimes.
I have a fair few “friends” on Facebook but even as I look through my list of “friends” I can (and have) put them into different groups.
I have my “old friends”, people that I once had good friendships with, old school friends, work friends etc. These are friendships that I formed and welcomed (and wouldn’t be without) but as time has passed, life has gotten in the way and the strong friendships that we might have once had, have dwindled but we still touch base once in a while, say Hi and are “friends”.
I have my “online friends”, the blogging world has opened up a whole new world of friendships to me, one that I am so grateful for. Some of my “online friends” have become some of my most respected friends. There’s so much support offered by some, it’s beyond words what these people mean to me. You have restored my faith in human nature and helped me heaps, Thankyou x
I have my “friends”, people that I still have close/good friendships with, people that I have recently formed friendships with etc………Friends who I care about (ok I care about all my friends but I hope you understand what I mean by that), friends that I spend time with, in person or online, offer support to and receive support from and love having the occasional (when time and life permits), chat to.
And I have my closest friends, the people that know me inside and out, the people that would be there to answer a call, give a hug, (even a cyber one) etc at 3 am if I needed it and vice versa. The friendships that will always be there, no matter what life throws at you.
My “close friends” group is an elite one and I don’t have too many, I’ve discovered over the years that unfortunately there aren’t too many in the world that you can truly trust. With all friendships there is a certain unspoken trust between you, a trust that you won’t be judged, a trust that you will be understood, respected, cared for, listened to and a trust that you can both be relied upon. Over the past couple of weeks some things have happened, (I won’t get into details), but the result of this has meant that I have started questioning some of my “friendships”. I’ve been let down hugely by someone that I had thought was a “close friend”, but over the past couple of weeks I’ve realised that we weren’t close friends. Close friends don’t treat each other this way and I’m now left wondering if we were ever “friends” at all, or if we were more acquaintances. I really don’t know but I do know that it makes me sad to think that this could be true and has had me browsing through my “friends” deleting and reorganising my groups.
I know that all of my friendships have and do mean alot to me, each have and are so valuable in their own unique way and I wouldn’t be without any of them…………………………………and of course as some dwindle away one thing is always certain SS and I will always have each other
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