J started playgroup last week. His first day went really well, he was excited to be going, enjoyed playing with the other children and loved the toys they had there, especially the outdoor play equipment. The only “down” moment was, he had to have a nap, because that’s what the children do here. When I spoke to the staff at the playgroup about it I was informed that alot of schools in Queensland also encourage the younger children to had a small nap after lunch also. J hasn’t had a daytime nap for about 2 years and he was quite upset about this.
The second session arrived and so did the tears! He was reluctant to go and we had a good amount of screaming. I made a point of telling his “teachers” that he wasn’t to have a nap and promised to pick him up early but he was very upset when I left him and guilt began to creep in. “Why am I leaving him somewhere he quite clearly doesn’t want to be?” He’s due to start prep in January and that will be 5 days a week without me, so I thought it would be a good idea to start him in playgroup 2 days a week so that he could make friends, have fun and have abit of time away from Mummy. He’s had alot of change lately, (J doesn’t cope too well with change), and he has gotten a little clingy again.
This week we have once again had screaming, lots of tears and “I don’t want to go”, “I don’t want to leave you”, “I’m scared” etc etc. All of which is not helping the guilt. I feel so bad leaving him there but I know it’s for his own good. When January comes he won’t have a choice, he has to go to school and I’d rather go through this with him now instead of then.
I’m worried that he may not adjust and settle because that’s just how J can be sometimes, but then how do I help him to adjust to going to school?
I know its early days and only time will tell if he’s going to be ok with me leaving him with other people, I hope he will adjust. In the meantime how can I help to assure him that it will be ok and that he can have fun without Mummy and how do I ease the guilt I’ve been feeling about leaving him etc….
All ideas/ comments welcome.